Trust & Nigeria: Our unborn children need us

January 1st, 2012. Nigerians got a gift. The PPPRA’s announcement of government’s removal of its subsidy on Premium Motor Spirit (PMS / Petrol). Prompting an immediate hike in pump price. Continue reading “Trust & Nigeria: Our unborn children need us”

Arrogance

I recently stumbled upon this article on coachville.com. I am reproducing the full article as available on the website. You may want to go through the original anyway. The webpage is at: Full Practice 100 | #84.  Being Arrogant. Goodluck with improving your attitude. People who are arrogant usually don’t know that they are arrogant. A couple of things to consider about this topic…

  • If you cannot afford to look bad, ignorant or stupid, you’ll tend to be arrogant in an attempt to look good or dominate the situation. And thus, not learn much. So, you’re guaranteed to look bad. Quite the cycle.
  • If you proselytize, you are probably arrogant.  Because you are pushing vs learning something new.
  • If you want to be less arrogant, don’t try to be humble.  Rather, just be upfront with everyone about your skill or knowledge level in the area of conversation.
  • If you want to stop being arrogant, simply decide to become a lifelong learner and let go of any need to share or push what you have learned with others.  Learning is plenty.  You don’t need to share it.  Really.
  • If you want to lose your arrogance, it may help to come to the realization that, in this lifetime, you will never know enough.
  • Listen about 10x more than you speak.  That’ll probably correct the problem.  If you cannot make this shift, then something else is going on.
  • Stop trying so much to help people with what you’ve learned. Make your knowledge available to all those who wish it.  Be a spring where they dip their cup into what you’ve got.  It’s a lot easier.  And you’ll have more time to enjoy your life and your learning.
  • Let go of the notion of trying to be someone or some special, aka “terminally unique.”
  • Be so unwedded to information/facts/truth/experiences that you are willing to abandon all that you know that is true if you come across a totally different truth, trend, fact  or awareness that is compelling.  Reality is always temporary.  Facts are always being replaced with more current facts.  Stop holding on to what used to be true.  .  I am not afraid of ignorance; I think it’s something of which to be excited about. After all, to include/endorse ignorance is something quite wonderful.
  • Take delight in your ignorance. It’s a key and valuable part of life. Ignorance is nothing to be embarrassed about or to compensate for.

Do any of these statements sound familiar?

YES   NO     QUESTION

____  ____     1. I am generally disdainful of soft approaches/solutions to problems.

____  ____     2. I am very good at what I do compared to others.

____  ____     3. I am only interested in what works.  Don’t distract me.  Period.

____  ____     4. I am absolutely certain about this…

____  ____     5. X is X.  That is not X.

____  ____     6. I’m in expert in this.  I know what works.  Listen to me.

____  ____     7. That’s an interesting proposal but here’s why it’s not going to work…

____  ____     8. I know what you are about to say.

____  ____     9. As Covey (or Ghandi or Robbins or Mother Theresa) says, X.  (Meaning that you use famous quotes a lot.)

____  ____     10. I know all about that.  The way it work is…

____  ____     Totals Go for 100% no’s.

But then, again, if you’re that good, maybe you are arrogant… The main point here… …is that we’re all naturally arrogant, and for very valid reasons.  The shift that is available is to be proud of what you know, but have learning be more important than knowing.

THE PAST IS GONE FOREVER!

By brooding over the past and its tragedies, one evinces a form of insanity – a kind of sadness that destroys resolve to live for the present moment. Those who have a firm purpose have filed away and forgotten occurrences of the past, which will never see the light of day again, since they occupy such a dark place in the recesses of the mind. Episodes of the past are finished with; sadness cannot retrieve them, melancholy cannot make things right, and depression will never bring the past back to life. This is because the past is non-existent.

Do not live in the nightmares of former times or under the shade of what you have missed. Save yourself from the ghostly apparition of the past. Do you think that you can return the sun to its place of rising, the baby to its mother’s womb, milk to the udder, or tears to the eye? By constantly dwelling on the past and its happenings, you place yourself in a very frightful and tragic state of mind.

Reading too much into the past is a waste of the present. When God mentioned the affairs of the previous nations, He said:

That was a nation that passed away.

Former days are gone and done with and you benefit nothing by carrying out an autopsy over them, by turning back the wheels of history.

The person who lives in the past is like someone who tries to see sawdust. Of old, they used to say: do not remove the dead from their graves.

Our tragedy is that we are incapable of dealing with the present: neglecting our beautiful castles, we wail over dilapidated buildings. If every man and every jinn were to try jointly to bring back the past, they would fail because this is an impossibility. Everything on earth marches forward preparing for a new season and so should you.

…culled from ‘DONT BE SAD’